Naming Contest

Ok I need a new name for my homestead. Rules are simple you have til January 1st to submit names. Then I will gather them up and we will sort them out choosing the one we deem best fitting. The winner gets highlighted on my website and they also will get a packet of my heirloom "black cherry" cherry tomatoe seeds as well as a suprise gift. And yes, you may submit more than one name.

New Year. New Cast. New Name?

The new year is almost upon us. I am looking forward to it, but then again I usually do.  This year was a particularly wonky mix of awesome and pain and as much as I'm glad it's going to be over with I'm thankful for it as well. My life has gone through some drastic cast changes but the stage is the same for now. I will say though that there are plans on the table for a move in a couple of years. While I love southern Illinois I'm finding a growing urge to go elsewhere. However, like I said, it's a few years off still. Many things need to be done to get me to the point where I can leave (mainly house repairs/improvements/selling) Until I get to that point I'm doing my best to enjoy my life here. So without further ado I introduce you to the current cast of characters:


Me: You've been with me for a couple years now but for the new people Im Stephanie, a 33 y/o pagan who located to Southern Illinois from Central Illinois about 6 years ago. I got married, I got divorced and now I own a house in a tiny town outside of Carbondale where I live with my roommates, cats and  a pitbull. Besides urban homesteading I like to participate in a sport called Dagorhir and also becoming active in the SCA (Society for Creative Anachronism).


Cool Roomie(Walley):  He's been my roommate for over a year now! He's currently a metalsmith student here at SIUC, he also participates in SCA and Dagorhir and is a gnome. He tinkers and fixes and creates.  I have even trusted him with a torch under my house and he only set fire to the beam once or twice ;)


Cool Roomie 2- Aka Jodie. I've lived with her off and on since I first moved down here. She's a forestry graduate who is getting ready to go off to basic training and tech school for the Air Force Guard. It's going to be different not having her around.


Sister Zim and her menagerie: Doom, doom, doom! She's not one that I've talked much about before, she is a friend who has become a sister in my heart.  When I'm not home I am at her house a lot with her, her husband and their roommates, Monkey and Basement Troll. They have been instrumental in keeping me from going completely destructive over the past year. They are my immediate family down here now. My mother has accepted them as family as well. Sister Zim held my hand while I went through hell and at court to get my divorce, her husband and I held hers while she brought the most gorgeous child into the world. Baby is the apple of all of our eyes and I am thoroughly enjoying being Auntie Stephie. Sister Zim is an awesome crafter and has been encouraging me in cross-stitch and crochet and has offered to teach me knitting if I get the urge to learn it. She also is a baker of epic cookies and muffins.


Brenna: You've already met the Brenna during the great cheese fiasco. Another sister of my heart, we are actually both from the Central IL area. She's in love with goats and is a fan of the fiber arts. She is usually my partner in crime for most of the homesteading activities/schemes and we often are found at one of her jobs daydreaming over gardening, chickens and (for her) goats. She's mainly a vegetarian and she loves to bake and cook ethnic foods.


So those are the people you may hear about or even see on this blog. Now on to other news......


I need a new name for my place.  My ex had dubbed it "McNelly City Farm" but that no longer is applicable. Hrmmm maybe make it a contest? Besides fame I'm sure I have something here to sweeten the pot.

Back in the saddle again

Hello friend and fellow bloggers. I know I've been out of the loop for a really long time. I tried, I really did, to keep up and stay in touch. I failed. My crazy life was spiraling all over and while it will always be crazy and slightly chaotic it has settled down some. My divorce was finalized this August, my name is reverted back to my maiden name, and I am getting on with my life.  Still in the house in De Soto until I decide I want to try to sell it. Parts of my life are still the same, parts are jarringly different and not necessarily in a bad way. One thing that I have found is this: I miss writing. I miss the connection I had with you guys and when it comes down to it I wanted this life before I had a house, a marriage or was even in Southern Illinois so the core of what I want is still pure, still intact. I just need to shove off all this garbage that I let myself get bogged down in.  I have a saying on my desktop that I read everyday. "If it's important to you, you will find a way. If it's not you'll find an excuse."

End of January

It's been good then bad then better then worse and now its just "meh".  One of my roommates ditched out on me with a weeks notice. Grrr.  Brian is still here though and I also have a friend emergency crashing at my place after her and her guy split. If she gets the job she's going for then she will probably become the new roommate. If not then she's moving up north to stay with fam or in with someone who can afford to let her stay rent free, as is I could only offer her a month.  I feel bad but there's not much else I can do. I can't afford it. I need paying roommates.

Things with me and Bill have deteriorated significantly. We get along for a bit and then it goes all to hell. I still love him, I miss him but there is no hope of reconciliation. When it's all said and done no matter how bad it gets between us I want only good and happy things for him. I have yet to file for divorce, I don't have the money for a lawyer (I'd rather just do it ourselves) but Im trying to save up. Maybe I will have enough after taxes. Im still kinda lost on this and I still get depressed a lot about the whole thing.

One thing that has helped is the planning of the gardens. They are a mess at the moment. I did a piss poor job of putting it to bed. One thing is for sure I want black cloth or paper to lay down, concrete blocks and mulch. Oh and a fence I must have a fence this year. Lots of plans to travel short trips and long. Short trips like going to see Bakers Creek Seed Company just over in Missouri, a trip over to Ohio and maybe Kentucky.  The bigger ones like Ragnarok will be interesting to try to swing this year. But Im up for the challenge. What are you guys doing to pass this damnable cold weather?

1 week of December down

Im still here. I have 2 renters in now. Things are starting to be a little easier. It's that slow time of year (for me) that dark reflective time that comes after Halloween. It's below freezing here, unusual for my area at this point in the year. I found the package that I was suppose to send Phelan (Sorry!!) So I need to take that to the post. I am needing to make another batch of bar soap, start planning the new gardens, work on my crochet and I need to just....breathe. I've missed reading everyones' blogs. I started the other day and realized how detached I had gotten and how much I missed what I had started.

William has moved out. Eventually we will get around to a divorce.  The house and everything is in my name alone, which is both a comfort and a worry (isnt that how it goes?)  I have 1 renter moving in and Im awaiting confirmation from another.  Both are guys who I've known for ages who are stand up people.  Outside of that Im just dealing with crap best I can.  I got left with the dog, which severely limits my travel unless the renters would be cool helping me out with him.  I don't know how much into the homesteading lifestyle they would be or how they will adapt to how I live (and vice versa).  Its adapt or die time for me folks....and I choose adapt.

Will be on hiatus. My husband and I are splitting up. I can no longer lie to myself about not wanting to have kids. Even though it's not a guaranteed thing with my PCOS, I can't live with myself unless I at least try.  He has always been upfront that he did not want more children....which when the doctors were pretty sure I couldnt have one that was fine, it was a relief. But then the doctors had run some tests and said that I had a green light I just needed to try THATS when the whole thing changed, and I changed That was right before my step daughter got pregnant. Just goes to show that a little bit of hope can be a destructive thing.  We are and probably will remain very much in love with each other but there is no getting around this, so here we are both destroyed.